Happy Birthday To You, Happy Birthday To You....

Today is my mother’s birthday. Truly a day to celebrate, because lets face it, if she hadn’t been born and then decided to have children we would not be here to help celebrate her special day.

I think we are going to take her eat out some place special, maybe some place we haven’t tried yet, although we love our favorite places so much I won’t be surprised if we just go back to one of our usual spots.

There are very few things in life I would change if given the chance but one thing I would change in a heartbeat is the fact that her health has failed her. She was once such an active person, working and dancing and enjoying life every minute, if given the chance I would make her that way again. Watching her struggle with something so terrible is heartbreaking and truly makes me appreciate my own good health so much more and it makes us appreciate the days when she is feeling good and able to do normal activities again.

We may have our struggles but we are always there for each other.

We love you mom, we wish you many more birthdays to come, you deserve the best life has to offer!!

Bad Things....Good People....

The age old saying goes; Why do bad things happen to good people? In a perfect world bad things wouldn’t happen at all, but we don’t live in a perfect world so we must adjust and cope with whatever comes our way.

I am fortunate enough to work with a great group of people, and even more fortunate to work amongst some really great women. There is a lot to be said about liking the people you work with and even more so when you respect them.

I’ve met some, of what I consider to be, remarkable women. Women who are working hard to support their families, some mothers, some single, some empty nesters, all with the same goals. Some with obstacles in their lives that most of us cannot even imagine, it is these that I admire most. These are the ones that amaze me each and every day, these women are the kind that show up to work when they are sick and the same ones you see rushing out of work when the call comes that a loved one is in need, the ones that are volunteering to sit with someone’s sickly mother while she tends to her dieing father even though she herself is caretaker to her own sickly father and daughter.

I can honestly say that some of these women have gone through more things in their lifetime than a single person should have to go through and more than anyone else I know. It is when I see these particular women always smiling and giving to others that I realize all the petty things in my life are just that, petty.


We have a sort of sisterhood in the workplace, most of the women there have worked together for upwards of twenty years, so you can imagine there is a bond between them like no other and I am glad they welcomed me into their group.

As a group we are watching a member of our work family grieve the loss of her husband way too soon. Although I have never met her husband, I know he was a great human being, and I know this because I know her and she loved him more than life itself, for she is one of the women who inspires me on a daily basis.

We all know there are no words to erase her pain but maybe our presence and support will help her walk through it. We love you my Sista Judy and we will be there waiting for you when you come through the other side.

I guess the question will never really be answered. Why do bad things happen to good people?